Karen Restivo
In Other Words....
There are two types of individuals that retain a communication coach - one individual seeking assistance in climbing out of some form of challenge with the outside world.
They find themselves trapped in a room with no windows or doors (no way out of a current situation, be it from short term or long term issues).
The other individual recognizes their personal and professional growth by how far they’ve come and seek to maximize their potential to elevate and enhance their continued assent to peak performance or status.
Regardless which individual commits to communication coaching, the foundation of the first visit is to ‘weigh and measure’ the current stance of where they find themselves, similar to either finding themselves mentally in an ER for urgent care or finding themselves in a once in a lifetime opportunity setting the stage for a next level commitment or promotion.
A communication coach asks permission to open their client’s proverbial tool kit to render what’s currently available and what essential tools are required to secure the optimal outcome.
The irony I find with clients is their misunderstanding of the use of communication stills.
It’s not always about their ability to communicate with others and vice versa, but instead their ability to communicate with themselves.
My favorite part of getting to know a client is looking for patterns of behavior and getting rid of the ones that aren’t beneficial.
In his book “This Thing Called You,” author Ernest Holmes mentions the subjective state of our thoughts.
He says, “The accumulated patterns (of thought) is automatically attracting or repelling.
“These patterns are automatically redoing their own seeds in creative medium of mind. They will keep on doing this until you change them. Your hope lies in the fact that you can change these patterns.”
The secret to successful coaching is to make absolutely sure the most important tool required for success is in the client’s tool kit.
The premise of coaching is not to have an extended amount of time (years) rehashing their history with a client, the premise is to weigh and measure the current situation to establish the most efficient way to the solution.
What’s the most essential tool the client must acquire?
That tool is change.
Holmes notes, “If you can weigh and measure the operation of unconscious expectancy as it comes to the surface, you can detect what (thought) has to be changed.
“This will not be a question of struggling with old patterns so much as it will be one of gradually straining them out.”
In other words, get rid of the idea you have all the tools you need in this life; instead, weigh and measure what you have, keep the ones that work, toss the ones that don’t and acquire the ones needed for the rest of your journey.
Karenrestivo57@gmail.com